新闻
404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China

另类惩罚教育可能伤害亲子关系

2017-08-12 03:58:46   中国青年网

孩子在水果店里疯跑,摔坏了一颗雪莲果,店家不追究责任,妈妈却主动买下破损的水果,“罚”娃咬牙吃下;孩子不守规矩在游泳池尿尿,被家长发现后一不打二不骂,送到医院看别的小朋友做包皮手术以示惩罚。都说教育孩子要赏罚分明,一些“80后”家长另类惩罚教育引心理专家关注。

孩子摔坏水果 “罚吃”一个小时

为了不浪费食物,也为了让儿子长记性,她额外提出一个“自食其果”的要求:让儿子无论是吃饭还是吃零食前,都要先吃一截雪莲果,直到吃完为止。这个要求对于旁人来说可能无所谓,但对于极不喜爱雪莲果味道的儿子而言犹如吃药,小孩手腕粗的一截雪莲果儿子吃了一个多小时,痛苦到想哭。

该条动态在朋友圈里引起高度关注。不少朋友点赞,认为宋女士引导孩子明辨是非,主动承担后果,是培养孩子责任心的一种智慧育儿方式;也有朋友直言,这样“严惩”儿子的方法太另类,担心会给小朋友留下心理阴影。

心理专家:奖罚都要把握好度

“奖也好罚也好,都是教育的辅助手段,关键是要把握好度。”武大特聘教授、高级心理辅导教师尹邓安认为,宋妈妈引导孩子主动赔偿承担后果的教育理念值得肯定,要求孩子不浪费“自食其果”的做法也可圈可点,但强迫孩子将自己不爱吃的东西吃完为止,这个度则有些过了,不仅容易让孩子产生逆反心理,还会令亲子关系产生嫌隙。他建议,如果跟孩子一起边吃边谈感受,效果可能更好。

尹邓安表示,现在许多年轻家长都很重视孩子责任心的培养,但方法有时候令人大跌眼镜。他举了个例子。之前曾有家长自曝育儿方法:因为家中幼儿不守规矩在游泳池尿尿,她一不打二不骂,把孩子送到医院探望一个刚刚做了包皮手术的小哥哥。她还告诉儿子,小哥哥就是因为不守规矩随地小便所以才受了“罚”。这种哄骗加吓唬的育儿方法,家长自认为十分奏效,实则给孩子造成了极大的心理伤害,甚至对家长产生强烈的不安全感。青春期前,是建立良好亲子关系的黄金时间,而良好的亲子关系也是有效家庭教育的基石。

记者向洁

404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China
404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China

相关阅读

404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China
404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China
404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China
分享到:
0 0
404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China
404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China

美图推荐

404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China
404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China
404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China
404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China

为您推荐

加载更多>>
404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China
404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China
404 Not Found

404 Not Found

Sorry for the inconvenience.
Please report this message and include the following information to us.
Thank you very much!

URL: http://3g.china.com:8080/act/news/11038989/20170812/31079383.html
Server: cms-8-251
Date: 2024/11/05 21:52:31

Powered by China
China