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欢乐颂五美里,邱莹莹才是最幸福的那个

2017-05-16 15:57:04   

她的幸福阈值非常低,和白渣男恋爱时一起挤地铁都觉得甜蜜,无意中知道了应勤已经有房有车,简直像中了彩票。

别以为做邱莹莹会吃亏。我有个朋友就是个邱莹莹式的女孩,家世学历长相皆不出挑,看上去傻傻的,总被大家吐槽智商,但却是朋友里人缘最好,最讨人喜欢的。她待人真诚全无心机,让人完全不必设防,所以一路都有贵人相助,大家都愿意去帮她。她自己也努力,如今从很低的起点一路进了五百强公司,待遇福利都羡煞很多人。

因为肯不计得失的努力,这样的人生往往低开高走,越走越宽广。这股傻劲,就是我在之前文章里提过的“钝感”。

日本作家渡边淳一专门写过一本书叫【钝感力】:

所谓‘钝感力’,即‘迟钝之力’,亦即从容面对生活中的挫折伤痛,而不要过分敏感。当今社会是一个压力社会,磕磕绊绊的爱情、如坐针毡的职场、暗流涌动的人际关系,种种压力像有病毒的血液一样逐渐侵蚀人的健康。钝感力就是人生的润滑剂、沉重现实的千斤顶:具备不为小事动摇的钝感力,灵活和敏锐才会成为真正的才能,也才能让人大展拳脚,变成真正的赢家。

反观樊胜美的不幸福,绝不仅仅是家庭的经济拖累,而是心态出了问题。太敏感,心比天高命比纸薄,很容易活在自怜自伤中无法自拔。她处处跟这个世界较劲,要强争胜。没钱也要敷750一张的纪梵希面膜,去理发店用最贵的护理产品,嫌弃王柏川的无能,邱莹莹无意中说了一句应勤有房有车,就让她瞬间失落。对于樊胜美来说,没钱是现实,但有钱了她也不会感到幸福。

比离开吸血家庭更难的,是改变自己这种过于敏感较劲的心态。

不得不说,欢乐颂五美性格的形成和她们各自的成长经历有很大的关系。

邱莹莹虽然是穷人家的孩子,但是她从不缺爱。她的爸爸的确很蠢,否则也不会干出带女儿买成功学这样的事情,这是他学识认知的局限。但是他很爱女儿,邱莹莹电话里一哭,爸爸立马放下一切跑到上海,给她下厨做饭,鼓励她重新振作,一口一个宝贝地哄。这样的孩子,内心是充满安全感的,所以面对挫折,反而能够快速调整,不会被击垮。

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